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Top 5 Massage and Bondage Secrets That Are Sure to Increase Your Pleasure

Top 5 Massage and Bondage Secrets That Are Sure to Increase Your Pleasure

If you’ve been thinking about adding a little something extra to your sex life, bondage may just be the perfect thing to explore.

You may have seen some aspects of bondage in movies or in porn. Or maybe you’ve heard stories from close friends or family.

Although most people think that bondage equates to being tied up, it’s actually so much more than that.

When incorporated into other things, such as massage, it’s an extremely fun and playful element to add to your sex life. But it’s also important to learn how to do it properly. Since bondage is one of the most common sexual fantasies according to a study — it’s only fitting to learn its ropes..

Keep reading to learn more about how to sexily incorporate bondage into your massage!

What Exactly Is “Bondassage?”

Here’s a rough definition of Bondassage®:

“This is an erotic massage technique that combines all of the elements of a sensual massage with some BDSM, spanking, sensory deprivation (blindfolds, ear-plugs) and sensation play…”

Basically, when you incorporate massage and bondage into your sexual play, you use items such as cuffs and ties to restrain your partner during massage or foreplay.

This helps to heighten the sexual experience for both you and the person you’re with. Especially if you and your partner are looking to experiment with the Dominant/submissive relationship, bondassage is a great place to start.

How Does Bondassage Enhance Sex?

If you’ve never tried Bondassage before, you might be curious about what all of the fuss is about. Can combining massage and bondage really make sex more exciting?

For many individuals, the answer is “Yes”… but only if they fully trust their partner.

Bondassage can enhance sex by adding an extra layer of excitement into the mix.

How Do I Know if My Partner is Willing to Try Bondassage?

Initially, it can be difficult to tell if your partner is willing to try it. However, there are a few things you can look for to help you figure it out.

For example, if your partner is open to experimentation in bed then there’s a big chance that he or she is willing to try Bondassage as well.

You could also be straightforward with your partner and just ask them.

The key here is to be open when talking about sex and simply ask them if they’ll be interested in trying it (or parts of it).

Or if your partner is the shy or reserved type, you may need to take a different approach.

It’s definitely important to make sure your partner is 100% willing for you to introduce bondage elements into your massage. Remember, trust is a key part of making sure both you and your partner have a great time!

How to Start Experimenting with Bondassage

For us, slow is the way to go when it comes to leveling up your kink, especially if you’re testing the waters. So start slowly and get to know the following secrets:

1) Get to Restraining

When it comes to restraining, simple ties and leather/velcro cuffs are the way to go.

They’re much safer than metal handcuffs and it’s also an easy way to gauge how you both feel about bondage. You might want to restrain just one body part first to help ease your partner into the idea to allow you both to enjoy a mild form of bondage.

2) Learn How to Tie

It’s not enough that you know how to tie your shoelace.  

Bondage is new territory.

In order to make sure that you tie a solid knot that doesn’t tighten or loosen on its own.

There are actually a lot of great resources on such as Wiki’s BDSM tutorial on tying knots for beginners.

Another reason to learn and incorporate this into your Bondassage session is that a lot of people crave the feeling of being restrained. Having restricted movements compel people to focus on the sensations that their lover is giving them.

It definitely provides an excellent escape for those who want a night of enjoyment being an erotic captive.

Many experience the kind of sweet release that leads to profound relaxation and immense pleasure!

3) Always Communicate

Whenever you’re trying something new, it’s always important to take the time to communicate.

You never want to alienate your partner or make them feel that they don’t have a say in how things play out. The receiver is really running the show. Only ever do exactly what has been agreed upon, and nothing further. This builds trust.

4) Don’t Be Afraid to Explore Further

Bondassage can offer an intense sensual experience so the sky is truly your limit when it comes to exploring!

Here are a few more advanced tips if you’re feeling comfortable with Bondassage and want to start experimenting further (not just in your massage):

  1. Try out different positions. Bondassage doesn’t always have to be done with your partner lying down. You can also do it tied or when he or she is kneeling.
  2. For added pleasure, blindfold her so she never knows where to expect the next sensation. This can be a total mind blowing feeling for many.
  3. Don’t just stick to massage and vary your routine. There’s no doubt that they’re sure to crave your next Bondassage session.

5) Take Them Over the Edge With Your Confidence

It’s truly important to be confident and in character once you start the session.

If a little more intensity is needed then you might want to take things up a notch.

The whole point of exploring and trying new things is to go out of your comfort zone. Negotiate what you’re both willing to try, relax and enjoy the moment.

A little fear is understandable (and erotic!), but you and your partner won’t gain anything if you let it get the best of you.

Make sure to relish it and you’re no doubt on your way to new and better things — not just in the bedroom but in your relationship as well!