The Prostate in a man is like a walnut and a doughnut. It has a hole running through the center of it for wiring and it has two sides with one of the halves split again.
When first familiarising yourself with a prostate, it is easier to do this with your guy lying face down. We are all uniquely shaped. For some men, the prostate will be easily accessible but for others it will feel like reaching for a hidden jewel. You will never be able to feel around the whole thing, only the surface of one side facing the rectum and the circumference of it.
The urethra runs from the bladder, directly through the prostate gland and out through the penis. The prostate gland plays a central role in the male sexual system. There are some tiny ducts called Acini which produce prostatic fluid. This fluid makes precum and it also mixes with sperm and fluid from the seminal vesicles to become the male ejaculate.
When a man is about to ejaculate the prostate doubles in size and forces the ejaculation out of the body. Playing with the prostate at this time is intensely pleasurable.
Arseholes are a miracle of science!
Have you ever noticed how intelligent and clever our arseholes are? They are able to decipher the difference between solid, liquid, and gaseous substances. And even though my guy tends to fart a lot, his arsehole is an absolute genius in allowing gas to escape without dropping a load of everything else if you get my drift.
When entering an arsehole, gradually move your finger inside, never forcing it in further or pushing against resistance – you should feel like your finger is being pulled inside.
Understanding that there are internal and external sphincters and the distance between both of them can be from .5 inch to 2 inches.
Everyone is familiar with the external sphincter but very few people are aware of the internal. Taking your time to work out the feeling of the distance of these sphincters is the difference between a painful and a pleasurable experience. People with a long distance between both sphincters can easily have an unpleasant and painful experience which leads them to never wanting the experience or anal sex again.
We are playing with a variety of nervous systems when we attempt to give anal or prostate massage.
A – Sympathetic Nervous System – Fight or Flight
B – Parasympathetic Nervous System – Reset and Recalibration
C – Enteric Nervous System – The Ancient Earth Worm of Our Body
A & B are like siamese twins. In basic terms, if the sympathetic nervous system is ON then the parasympathetic is OFF. Or vice versa.
And B & C are like Best Friends.
The most ancient nervous system in our bodies is the enteric nervous system – it is the ancient earthworm of our body. It starts at our mouth and ends at our arse – and its job is to move and process our food through our bodies. So when you insert something into someone’s body – a reaction of the body may be to instigate the peristaltic motion (that we all feel when we have diarrhea).Take time and allow the body to get used to the sensation.
You must be comfortable and relaxed in your own body as the giver.
If you are uncomfortable in any way that will be translated and relayed to the receivers body through our sympathetic nervous systems. If my nervous system is in fight or flight – then it will be communicating to your nervous system that it isn’t safe – and now is not the time to relax and recalibrate.
Take your time – never be in a rush
If someone leads a highly stressed life or is not getting enough sleep, one of the best things you can do is to give them a long relaxing bottom and anal massage. Once the enteric nervous system has gotten over its reactions and relaxes, the enteric nervous system invites the parasympathetic nervous system to activate.
You generally find a great bottom and anal massage could take an hour and end up leaving you drooling and in a deliciously sleepy state.
I give the Anal and Prostate Massage TWICE
The first time I give with the receiver face down. It allows the receiver to feel their prostate or prostatic tissue in a relaxed way. It gives them time to get used to all the sensations and to get their body’s awareness and their head around what is happening to them. I do this purely for relaxation.
This also allows me to understand the anatomical shape of the receiver. How long the distance is between both sphincters, where the prostate is located. and how much of it can be felt. I work out what finger I may need to use when I am massaging the prostate in the arousing component of my massage.
You would be surprised to know how many people think just putting a finger in someone’s bottom is enough!
Literally – don’t be scared of shit
Our excrement is organic waste. Wear gloves and be adult about it. I prefer black nitrile gloves.
Our faeces are not stored in the rectum, the area just beyond the anus where you will stimulate during internal anal play and prostate massage. It is stored much higher up, in the colon. It only passes through the rectum and anus as the final stage of exiting the body.
However, I probably wouldn’t bother with a prostate or arse massage the day after a great chilli con carne or some hot curry because things will be messier than usual.
It isn’t always about the fucking motion of sex in the arse.
It is about the being present and going deep for the prostate in a man.
Begin the massage with very light pressure, and communicate with the person receiving. If there is any tenderness or pain, reduce pressure or stop the massage. If the pressure you are using feels good, continue the massage.
You can increase pressure gradually, always communicating with your partner about what feels most pleasurable. Prostate stimulation should never be uncomfortable or painful.
Place your finger directly on the prostate and pulse up and down. Try this gently at first and continue to add pressure, noticing what level of pressure is most pleasurable for your lover.
The interesting thing about arseholes – is nobody can see their own.
Unless of course they are some kind of yoga guru. And there can be a lot of shame associated with our arseholes – potty training gone wrong as toddlers.
Position yourself properly.
When I am giving the face down portion of my prostate massage I will sit beside my receiver while they lie on the massage table.
When giving the face up arousing portion of my prostate and anal massage I sit between their legs on my massage table and have their legs draped over mine.
Keep your dominant hand free for playing with genitals.
I prefer using my right hand on his cock – so I have my guy move his hips more to the left. This allows me more freedom with my left hand and arm to access his anus and prostate.
If I have more freedom in my left arm – then it allows for more freedom of movement inside his body. If that freedom of movement is limited, then it creates tension and can actually be painful for him.
If you prefer to use your left hand to play with genitals then have your guy move their hips more to your right side.
Ramping up the experience by using an electric vibrator.
Have you heard of the Magic Wand? It is a device that is used externally on a guy’s body, and it’s a great investment. When using it directly on genitals, check that your man enjoys it. The Magic Wand can be intense when directly applied to genitals, and you can soften the vibration by placing a towel around the head of the vibrator.
Well, there you have it. 13 Hot Tips for Prostate Massage. Let us know how you go!
We are excited about the opportunity of presenting you with more educational information. If you are interested in exploring Bondassage at home with by yourself or with your partner then our Art of Bondassage course is perfect for you.
If you would like to take one of our video tutorials for a test-drive, why not check out our Sexy Panty Massage Course.
If you are a professional service provider and you want to blow your clients away with a new experience and increase your income by becoming a certified Bondassage Practitioner, click here.