Getting Started with Panty Massage

Giving a great panty massage is all about enjoying yours or someone else’s sensuality.  If you are a man reading this, you will remember what it is like rubbing yourself up against some lovely lingerie as a young man.  Way before you ever got to third base.  The older we get, the quicker we get to the main course and we forget to savour the experience along the way.

So giving a great sexy panty massage is about allowing our partners to just receive and for us just to give a great massage.

This is a perfect date night activity or it’s a perfect way for a professional to provide a treat to their clients.

Here’s some tips before we start.

1. Don’t use your best knickers, you get can great knickers from Target – my ideal kind of knicker – has a variety of textures ie shiny and lacy.  (Forget your Agent Provocateur or La Perle underwear) I like a knicker that covers the bottom – gstrings can look hot but they don’t really give you anything to play with fabric-wise.
2. As someone giving the massage – always make sure you are comfortable.  If you are uncomfortable in how you are sitting on a chair or on a bed.  The distress you are feeling in your body will be transmitted to the person receiving your touch.  So please make sure you are at ease.  (We are such unique creatures as human beings – did you know that in a birthing room if anyone is in fight or flight mode – it gets energetically transmitted to the birthing mother that it is not safe to have her baby and the labouring process ceases – the sympathetic nervous system is really intelligent)
3. Always remember to be conscious of your breath, if you are breathing then it is a deeper invitation for your partner to relax and breathe more deeply. (Learning or remembering to breathe deeply is actually really beneficial for every body.  When our breath is shallow we are often in fight or flight mode. The lack of breathe and the holding of breathe in a person can actually trigger the remembering of traumatic events.)
4. Choose music that you enjoy and helps you keep tempo with the movement of your hands and breathe.  I would suggest not using music that you are too familiar with and that creates emotionality in your hands or body (think Beaches soundtrack, when you end up in tears or Ten Inch Nails and you end up hurting the person on the table).  If you have access to Art of Bondassage in Week 4, you will find great music suggestions there.