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Pussy Pleasuring

PUSSY PLEASURING

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“Pleasure is your birthright.” Dreu

Female genital massage is a sensuous form of bodywork that can build trust between lovers. It helps her connect to her inner sensuality and results in feelings of complete well-being, satisfaction, and contentment. The genitals are sensitive but they are by no means delicate ~ we don’t need to treat them with kid gloves (unless you’re into that sort of thing).

A woman loves to have her pussy honored and adored, and treated with respect. There are many exquisite parts to touch, explore and appreciate. Glide with your fingertips over her clit, between the labia, gently pull on her labial lips, press your hand over her vulva, touch slowly, even more slowly, stop and let your touch be still.

The tissue of the inner labia and the vagina is mucous membrane, the same type of tissue that is inside the eyelid, so make sure these tissues are kept moist and touched with care. Part of this care includes short and smooth fingernails with the skin beside the nails also filed smooth.

Use body strokes to spread the sexual energy from the genitals, stroking from the pussy to the belly and heart, and from the genitals or heart out to the arms and legs. Beginning at the pussy or the heart, stroke down each of the legs and up each of the arms, making a large U-shape. Spread the energy throughout the massage as well, as you want to bring your partner back from the edge.

When you are both ready to begin the massage, have her lie on her back (headphones on and blindfolded) with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. Ask her to bend her knees and open her legs to expose her genitals. You can either sit comfortably between her legs with your legs crossed, or you may wish to straddle the table (if you’re using a massage table) and drape her open legs over yours.

Place your hands at the outer tops of her thighs and hold for a moment. Watch her breathing, and connect with her. Connect her heart to her vulva by placing one hand on her heart space between her breasts and the other hand, lightly and softly cupped against her vulva. Hold this position for several breaths, using this time to feel in your body, to notice her breathing, and to let her feel the heart/genital connection. Feel the connection between the two of you through your touch and presence.

Gently massage the legs, abdomen, and thighs to encourage her to relax. Next, massage the pubic bone area and then move down to the inner thigh area. Gently draw your fingertips up along the inner thighs and vaginal lips. Tug gently on her pubic hair. Always remember to have a slow hand and an easy touch.

Pour a small quantity of warm, high-quality oil or lubricant on her pubic mound. Coconut oil is a favorite ~ it has antibacterial properties and smells wonderful. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and covers the outside of the genitals. Begin gently massaging the mound and outer lips. Slowly and sensually massage her outer lips. With the thumb and index finger, gently squeeze each lip, sliding the fingers up and down the entire length. Carefully repeat this process with each inner lip of the vagina varying the pressure and speed of touch based on what feels right. Spend time here and do not rush.

The clitoris is an amazingly complex structure, similar in function to the penis, but many times more sensitive. The glans portion of the clitoris holds more sensory nerve endings than any other structure in the human body. The clit has only one purpose: pleasure. Nothing tops its ability to receive and transmit sensations of touch, pressure or vibration.

Gently stroke the clitoris in a circular motion, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Lightly squeeze it between thumb and index fingers. Many women report that it feels better when you lick or caress the sides of her clitoris rather than its top. You can use your other hand to massage her breasts, abdomen, or inner thighs.

Move on to teasing the outside of the vaginal opening after you’ve done a nice warm-up massage of the whole area. Tease along the outside of the vaginal opening and around, near the outside of the vaginal opening just above, to the urethra. The urethra also has erectile tissue in it which can also be a source of great pleasure. Many women like having their urethra stimulated very lightly while lubricated. We, of course, suggest trying it to find out.

As you move to the vaginal opening make sure not to penetrate right away. It is crucial to proceed very slowly with internal touch in order to let your partner relax. Take time around that opening to tease, to massage, to allow her to draw you inside.

Next, slowly insert your middle finger into her. Very gently explore and massage the inside with your finger. Take your time and gently feel up, down and sideways. Due to differences in pelvic structures, the G-spot might actually be anywhere from just an inch above the pubic bone (near 12:00) to somewhere near the uterus. With your palm pointing upward and your finger inside your partner’s pussy, bend your finger to make contact with her G-spot. Gentle pressure from the other hand can be added on the lower abdomen just above the pubic bone.

Be gentle and take your time. If a single finger is well received, you may be able to increase the pleasure by the addition of another. Try using the thumb of your hand to stimulate the clitoris. If you’re feeling adventurous, and she seems open to it, you might try inserting the pinky of the right hand into her anus.

Enjoy giving the massage without any expectations. Support your partner in having the type of finish that she would like, whether it is to have a climax through her own touch, through your touch, with a vibrator or toys, or to retain the energy through the Clench and Hold:

The Clench and Hold is a tantric practice: Instruct the recipient to start with deep breathing through her mouth. Once she feels tingly and alive (at least thirty breaths or so), she should take three fast deep breaths, then clenches her PC muscles (the pelvic floor muscles that keep you from peeing), and the muscles through her entire body, holding her breath for as long as she can. You may then tell her to release and feel the flood of sensations!

As she comes back to earth, place one hand on her heart and one hand on her genitals and take some nice deep breaths together. Slowly, gently, and with respect, remove your hands. Cover her genitals with warm, wet towels and wrap her in a blanket. Allow her to relax and enjoy the afterglow.