Your Ideal Day


The first thing we want to do is to get into a specific frame of thinking.  The mindset we want to adopt and stay in during this entire exercise is:  No limitations or consequences.

What is something you currently feel limited by?  Money, time, maybe even your body … these are the types of limitations I am referring to.

The longer you can spend on this exercise, the better!  I recommend turning the phone off and getting rid of any distractions.  Go to the bathroom, make a cup of tea or coffee, get comfortable.  The idea is to give yourself fully to the writing exercise.  The question you will be answering is:

If there were no limitations or consequences, what would my ideal session look and feel like?

Here is an outline to give you some ideas on the types of things you should include in your answers:

  • What kind of apartment or house do you live in when you receive the call or the email to book the session?
  • What kind of mood are you in when you get the call?
  • What time of day is it?
  • Is the client a man, woman, or couple?
  • Is the client booking through email, phone call, or text message?
  • What does the client say in the email, phone call, or text message?
  • What does it make you feel like?
  • How much is the donation?
  • How long of a session do you agree to?
  • What were you doing before you booked this appointment?
  • Have you seen this client before?
  • What kind of clothing selection do you have?
  • What does your body look like, when you look in the mirror as you are getting dressed?
  • How do you feel as you put on your clothes?
  • Does the client come over, pick you up, or do you go to the client?
  • What kind of transportation do you take?
  • What does the client look like?
  • What type of work does the client do?
  • Is the client cultured, and what is the client’s life experience like?
  • What is the client’s demeanor?
  • What do you talk about?
  • What does the client ask for?
  • What does it feel like to be with the client?
  • What type of setting are you in during the session?
  • Do you eat any food or have any drink?  If so, what?
  • What are you thinking about while you are talking to the client?
  • What types of things do you say to make your client laugh?
  • Do you have any common interests, and how much do you share with one another about yourselves?
  • Towards the conclusion of the session, what is the mood?
  • How long does it take you to get ready to say goodbye?
  • What do you do in preparation to part ways?
  • What does the goodbye feel like?
  • What does it feel like to reminisce on your experiences with this client as you go to sleep later that evening?

This is just an outline to help you start.  Please go into as much detail as you possibly can.  You will revisit this again and again.